2016, you were an interesting one.
It’s been a difficult year, full of so many ups and downs. Filled to the brim of people entering and leaving my life, mixed feelings and oh-so many difficult and life changing experiences.
Here’s some of what i learned through it all.
16. Everything is mental. What you think and what is truth are two completely different things. Over thinking is the way to destroy yourself, and it’s something many people make the mistake of doing, including myself. I have created the most preposterous and unlikely scenarios through various situations and I always let them get the best of me. What you have to tell yourself is that everything will be alright. Even if something negative happens, all that matters is how you react to it, and what you can do to better the situation.
15. Don’t follow trends. Never wear a certain type of top or a pair of shoes because a lot of people started wearing it. Make it your own! Just because it looks visually appealing on them, doesn’t mean it does on you. Or, maybe it does.You could probably pull it off if you tried, but that doesn’t mean you should. Follow your own path and discover your own style. 2016 has been a big year for me in discovering my style, where i found i can (and will, constantly, all the time) fall in love with a plain black t-shirt and own hundreds of them, and at the same time cut out a hole for my head and wear a giant brown fuzzy carpet in public and be happy in it. I see my body as art, and this includes what i wear. My style is like my painting. I can get inspiration, but i can’t copy. Long story short, wear what you’re comfortable in, not because it’s trending.
14. Change is necessary. We are constantly changing through the people we meet and the people we surround ourselves with. Wether we like it or not and wether we know it or not, our personalities change, and our ideas become shaped and altered as we continue through life. This is why we have to be careful who we surround ourselves with. Change isn’t always bad, it’s actually mostly good. We learn through our experiences and mature as a person. We’re all on a journey of discovering ourselves and what we stand for.
13. It’s good to be different. This, of course, is an obvious. Everyones different, everyones a little weird to someone, everyone’s a little “crazy”, but some people simply stand out of a crowd, and it’s obvious they do. People will judge and belittle you because of your ideas, what you look like, or how you hold yourself but there’s nothing more important than standing up for what you believe in and what makes you happy, even if people don’t understand it. As long as it doesn’t harm yourself or others, go for it!
12. Compliment and spread positivity as much as possible. A person will never truly regret complimenting a stranger. They will never regret telling someone how much they love their outfit, or that they think they’re beautiful. If you like something on someone, tell them. I promise you, you’re not embarrassing yourself. You’re not acting weird, and you will most likely feel great after telling them. Also, never forget to say please and thank you, as well as telling people how much you appreciate them and/or their gestures. It’s really all about the little things. They make a huge difference in your life.
11. Taking care of your skin starts with what you consume. As many of you know i’ve had problems with acne for a long period of my life and still do, and i’ve had a very difficult time learning to feel confident and comfortable in my own skin, but i’ve learned that what i eat directly affects my skin, so i’ve cut out a lot of unhealthy food and have been staying away from red meat, pork and beef, including some dairy. I don’t even remember the last time i drank milk. But even what you eat doesn’t affect your skin (lucky you), it feels great to detoxify your body. Drink more tea and water, consume more fruits and vegetables and stay away from processed foods! Your body will thank you.
10. Surround yourself with positive people. There are currently 7.4 billion people on this earth. There’s no need for you to hold on to people who make your body feel heavy, like you cannot move, like you cannot do anything right. Sometimes it’s difficult to cut toxic people out of your life, but once it’s done, it’s oh-so liberating. It’s a joyous feeling, like a weight being lifted off your shoulders. When you’re alone and you think no one feels the same way as you, you’re wrong. There’s always someone out where who’s wondering the same thing, and you’ll find them. Be patient.
9. Never search for a relationship. It will come to you at the right time, don’t rush anything. Don’t put pressure on a potential bae, they will stick around if they truly see something in you. If they leave then allow them to leave- as a matter a fact, hold the door open for them. They don’t deserve you. Never settle for anyone who doesn’t desire to get lost in your eyes , drown your mind, or explore your skin.
8. Emotion is a good thing. If i had a quarter every time i’ve heard someone around my age say they have no feelings and are emotionless, i’d probably have around ten dollars. Probably more. Still, that’s a lot, and it’s not healthy. I’m not sure why so many young people want to cut off a major part of being human, but it’s important to know how good it is to feel and experience life. Through the bad and good, this is what life is about. Feeling and reacting. Numbing yourself can be nice at first, but in the long run, it’t not worth it. You cannot numb out the bad without numbing the good.
7. Take note of your thoughts. Write everything down. Carry a notebook or notepad with you wherever you go (If that’s too much for you, notes on your phone works fine). The worst feeling is when you have a ground-breaking idea, or a lovely thought and it just slips away. I like to think of the lines on paper as a cage in order to keep my thoughts in a single place where they cannot escape and i cannot lose them. It’s very helpful.
6. Your body is your own. Don’t let anyone tell you what you can or can’t do with your body. Show it off or cover it up. Have (safe) sex with as many people as you want or keep to yourself as long as you want. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Your body is your business, no one else’s.